I have a lot of thoughts on the Terri Shiavo events that have been unfolding over the last several days. And a lot of my thoughts, like Annika’s, are conflicting.
First and foremost, I don’t think Congress has any business getting involved in this very personal matter. I’m disheartened and disgusted by what looks to be a lot of political grandstanding.
Now, on to the ‘husband’, Michael Shiavo. I do not dispute that, as the husband of Terri Shiavo, Michael should have the right to make any and all decisions on behalf of his wife.
Mr. Shiavo contends that the entire reason that he is requesting that his wife be allowed to starve to death is that he made a promise to her not to let her live this way.
I can understand the essence of that argument. In fact, this case has prompted my wife and I to sit down and discuss ‘what if…â€.
But Mr. Shiavo also promised his wife on their wedding day that he would be faithful. He has not been. He is still legally married to Terri—which is how he retains the rights to speak on her behalf. But he has abandoned every other pretense of marriage by living with and having children with another woman.
Based on this fact alone, I think that Mr. Shiavo has already ‘dissolved’ his marriage to Terri, and thus, her parents should now possess the right to speak on their daughter’s behalf.
Mr. Shiavo claims that his wife would not want to live like this. I don’t doubt that they had that conversation. My wife and I have.
But, Mr. Shiavo, I doubt that she would want to die like this, either (slowly starving and dehydrating to death).
If you love Terri as much as you say you do, and you want to uphold your promise to her…then be a man about it. Don’t let your wife slowly starve to death. Now that her feeding tube has been pulled, and death is now inevitable…be a man and help your wife to end her life quickly and painlessly: the next moment that you have alone with her, take her pillow and smoother her until she is dead.
I know that sounds horrible. But when my wife and I talked about this, I told her (1) make damned sure I’m really gone (mentally), and (2) don’t you fucking dare let me slowly starve and dehydrate to death.
In Shiavo’s case, if I were the husband, I would finalize a divorce with my wife, and let her parents take responsibility for their daughter (as they are begging to do). Shiavo should do the same. He won’t though. And in less than two weeks from now, Terri will be dead.
There is nothing good about any of this.
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UPDATE: Terri is finally at peace.
Michael Schiavo is a wretched excuse for a man. He’s exactly the type of low-life user of women who gives all men a bad name. We should band together, go down to Florida, and quite frankly just beat the ever-livin’ shit out of him, until he cries “uncle” and signs divorce papers.
Left by Jeff H on March 22nd, 2005 at 12:00 pm